I’m Over All That: Inspired by Shirley MacLaine

“When I look back on some of my experiences, I’m intrigued by which ones I recall as being important.” Shirley MacLaine, I’m Over All That: And Other Confessions It’s highly probable that one of the reasons I’m so in love with Shirley MacLaine’s New York Times Bestseller I’m Over All That: And Other Confessions (Atria Paperback, Simon & Schuster, Inc.) is because I come from the entertainment industry. (Even though wording it that way makes me sound like an alien of sorts. I do come in peace …promise.) Another reason I love it so much is because of the raw, authentic voice Shirley has honed over the years. It’s something I have a huge, gigantic respect for because it should be one of the easiest things in the world to – oh, I don’t know – be ourselves. Except that it’s not. Just ask Barbie with her 8,395 careers, fashion styles, hair colors, life stories. Who is […]

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Something You Should Know About Your Purpose

Dearest Gisters …supportive, lovely, amazing, hilarious, patient Gisters, I’m gonna start off with a list. Because I love you, this is a long piece, and I don’t want to waste your time. This post is probably not for you if one or all of the following apply: You have all your life shit together. You’ve never been confused about your ‘purpose.’ You’ve never searched and searched and after strenuous, restless, agonizing days and nights you finally found your ‘purpose’ (!) only to realize you’re …still confused. You think a purpose is a magical entity that will effortlessly fix all (actually, if this is you, you should keep reading. You might find something helpful toward the end). You can’t take these words of wisdom seriously knowing I’m writing them over Taco Bell kids’ menu nachos while listening to my dog non-gracefully serenade the neighbor’s horse. Okay. Now that we’ve gotten that out of […]

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World Suicide Prevention Day: All The Things I’m Not Supposed to Say

A month ago I would’ve written this as some long, veiled piece. Maybe sharing some of my experience. Fully laced with all kinds of weird cheerleading & things I thought I was supposed to say to inspire people or touch someone’s heart or something (?). But the closer I shift to my real self, the authenticity pants I’ve been breaking in lately are just gonna go ahead and say the shit I’m not supposed to say, starting with: I have utterly no damn idea how lighting a candle helps anything. At all. I have no idea how this maddening gap I see through my work at the hospital is ever going to possibly be bridged. Suicidal patients admitted with a 1 to 2 day hold. Precious hours that could very literally be the only window of opportunity for them to receive help – yet they aren’t utilized the way they […]

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Death, Depression, Penguins, And Kundalini Yoga

“Earth is just a stopover and what you achieve there is only a small part of the deal.”  Annie Kagan, The Afterlife of Billy Fingers  It’s very late summer. Hotter than hell here. And I’m currently living less than 30 minutes away from a large, crystal clear, gorgeous, blue body of water. So, naturally, I spent most of yesterday …in bed. Today: a funeral (and then …bed). Tonight: I managed to drag my ass to my yoga mat for my 5 promised daily minutes of Kundalini yoga (because Holly told me to. And I trust her. And love her. And I have committed.) And then jumped on my laptop and here I am writing to you (yes, back in bed). This most recent depressive ‘episode’ of mine started several weeks ago when I lost a patient at the hospital where I work. A lot of you may not even know I work […]

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How To Actually Keep Your Personal Boundaries

Boundaries. Little itty bitty things that make a gigantonormous difference in our lives. Especially when you’re on the road to that whole self-discovery & personal development thing where you’re working to actually learn to love yourself. I dare you to Google anything about self-love, self-care, self-help …any of those bad boy ‘self’ terms & come up with an article that doesn’t mention boundary setting. Which is swell except for one snag in the plan: setting and keeping are two different things. Set [verb]: 1. to put (something or someone) in a particular place Keep [verb]: 4. to maintain, especially in accordance with specific requirements, a promise, etc. Basically, unless you find ways to keep them, your boundaries might as well head down to the nearest bar and disappear into the abyss never to be seen again. Which is exactly where most of my boundaries spent their time in Los Angeles …MIA. Hollywood isn’t exactly a ‘personal boundaries’ conducive kinda place […]

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How To Feel Better About Yourself…Fast

Let’s talk accomplishments. Start simple: I know it’s constructive to clean out your closet. You know it’s constructive to clean out your closet. Old stuff donated. All the stuff that’s seen better days finally tossed. Hand-me-downs off to a cozy, new, appreciative home. More space & organization? Yes, please. It’s like Christmas in the adult world. But there’s something else we get from cleaning out our closets that we don’t really think about… It’s not just about having all our Nikes in plain sight. It’s not about the magic of being able to actually find our clothing items and therefore, maybe even dress ourselves in something you could call a timely manner, minus the expletives and frustration and having ‘nothing to wear!’ (one of my favorite mantras for getting dressed). And it’s not about our well-planned, color-coded, slightly OCD Spring-Summer-Fall-Winter corners (although more power to you if you go this far…you’re so welcome to […]

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An Open Letter to Dads of Girls in the 21st Century

Dear Dads of Girls in the 21st Century, I write this letter to ask you a favor that’s close to my heart: Please, for the love of God, work hard to be the traditional, honorable, respectable men of your generation in your young daughters’ lives. Teach us that success does not mean thousands of Instagram followers and that happiness does not mean a 6-figure income. Teach us about the strength of our female soldiers, the brains of our female astronauts, and the compassion of our female philanthropists. Teach us that Grandma’s spirit, generosity, and affinity for bright pink lipstick are the things that make her beautiful – not her shape, weight, or the price she paid for her clothing. Teach us that Mom’s caring hands when we’re sick, loving arms when we’re hurt, patience when we make mistakes, and guidance as we learn from them are what make her so valuable and cherished by you […]

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Journeying from Hollywood to Healthy

*Originally published @ The-Zeit.com on February 18th, 2015. When The Zeit contacted me with an invite to become a contributor, I was beyond excited that my writing style & my one-month-old (at the time) baby blog had caught the attention of such a fantastic site showcasing relevant, honest insights into self care – both mental & physical. I started researching The Zeit & pretty soon jumped from ‘beyond excited’ to full on, knock-my-socks-off THRILLED when I found the following on the About page in regards to the health industry: …There are a lot of truly dedicated individuals and organizations that are sincere and have good products, advice, and services. However, it takes knowledge to know what is real and what is not. Knowledge is power and we at The-Zeit want to furnish you with the knowledge so you are able to make all the right choices. To share a little about myself, I’ve spent the last […]

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Conversations With a Desolate Mind

I write tonight with the spirit of transparency flowing through me. I stayed in my pajamas today. Until almost 6pm (when I changed for an entire 30min to go out & grab some dinner). And it’s not just because I’m lazy. And somewhat unemployed. And my pajamas are comfy. It’s because that’s what depression can look like. 25 hours ago: I was writing a blog post filled with a quirky, fun, smart-ass vibe & feeling damn proud of myself for bringing a great voice to a boring topic. 12 hours ago: I was enjoying my second cup of coffee, a blueberry muffin, and tweeting up a storm of positive affirmations, quotes, and stories. 6 hours ago: I was sitting at my desk trying to work with zero ability to focus but 100% ability to cry for (seemingly) no reason at all. 2 hours ago: I was having a deep conversation […]

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Why I’m Losing Social Media Followers & Why I Don’t Give A Crap

“Lions don’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.” – Unknown I like followers the way I like chocolate: makes me smile, there can never be enough, and available to me 24/7. But there’s a difference between the cheap stuff from the 99 Cent store & Venchi Cuor di Cacoa dark chocolate imported from Italy. And there’s an even bigger, more monumental difference between social media followers who find you bright & shiny versus those who find you valuable. I’ve watched my follower counts rise & fall chaotically since Jan. 1st, when 2015 pushed me back into the world as a different person with a different voice. People can’t seem to decide if they like me or not. Eh, I get it – spent years in the same boat myself. But then I got off that rickety piece of shit & boarded a sleek jet to the Land of Authenticity where the Mandas […]

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